For too long we have avoided really talking about sex in the church. And, I’m not talking about the youth group. I am talking about a Sunday morning sermon (or series) that really dives into the topic. It’s taboo.
Some churches may find it to be inappropriate to talk about. Or, that the people in their church do not need to address the subject. They may even feel like it isn’t that big of a problem in the first place to spend time on the question.
Then we wonder why we have more people (not just teens) having sex without marriage. We stand firm and address the topic of abortion, without ever addressing the subject that brings a person to the abortion clinic in the first place. Sex.
In a time when we have children growing up in single parent homes…
In a time when films and television have stopped implying and now show sex scenes…
When songs on the radio have explicit lyrics and music videos are graphic…
When you can’t even pass through the check out line at the grocery store without knowing about other people’s sex lives…
In a time when we have immediate access to any type of pornography, at the click of a button…
IS IT NO WONDER THAT OUR COMMUNITY IS CONFUSED!
As a child of divorce, my mother has been single the majority of my life. My grand parents were separated. I literally had no example of what a solid Christian Marriage looked like. I had no concept of what a healthy sex life looked like in the confines of that marriage. It’s something that has had a direct impact on my own marriage. I am navigating unfamiliar waters. What I learned about marriage, was what I saw on TV from the old generation shows like Leave it to Beaver and The Cosby Show. Ask yourself, for kids today… what do the TV shows and movies they watch tell them about the reality of a healthy sex life in the confines of marriage? Because, I can assure you if they are not seeing it modeled in their home… movies and TV become their reference material.
In addition we spend so much time telling teens not to, shaming sex before marriage… that when they enter into marriage they have no clue what is permissible within their marriage. We have presented a polarization of sex to our kids and young adults that is hard to navigate. There is so much sexual dysfunction in our world, and in the church, that we don’t know where to even begin. If our Pastors are not answering the questions, we turn to …. ?
Authentic Intimacy is a ministry that has answered the call. With their previous publication they have stepped right into the ring with the subject others are trying avoid. This week their newest book, 25 Questions You’re Afraid to Ask, releases and I’ve had the opportunity to get a sneak peak.
To book covers questions like:
Can I Be Single and Sexual?
Is It Wrong to Like Sex?
Why do Guys Care So Much About Sex?
How Do I Get Past My Shame?
It also addresses porn, masturbation, homosexuality, trust after betrayal, and so much more. These are the questions that Dr. Juli Slattery gets asked the most often by women all over the world. They are questions we all have or have had.
For those of us who are parents, this gives an insight into the questions that are rolling around the minds of our teens and young adults. Questions they may be afraid to ask us, or we may be afaid to bring up.
With so much sexual dysfunction in the world, we can’t ignore the topic anymore. We need to break down the walls, stop avoiding the subject, and really dig into what healthy sexuality is from a biblical perspective.
Today, author Dr. Juli’s podcast Java with Juli has a great introduction to the what and why behind the book, and some other incentives you will not want to miss out on, just click the link below:
Authentic Intimacy will also be in Port Saint Lucie Florida, January 30th for a special one day conference! Just click on the photo for more information!!!