Why Do We Have to Choose

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Due to social media we have a window into the lives of everyone’s opinions about what happens in the world.  We learn about the issues that are the closest to their hearts, the social plights that burden them at night, where they lean politically, and even those little every day pet peeves.  Everyone we are connected to also learns these things about us.  It’s a constant flood of opinions, editorials, pleas for activism, calls for change, fundraising requests, petitions, and news shares that are peppered in among pictures of our kids, meals, and fun.

What I have also noticed is that there is a lot of assumptions being made.  It seems like every major issue is cut and dry.  You are either for it, or against it.  At times it also feels like if you choose to support one issue, then everyone assumes that is the only issue that matters to you.  As if we can’t feel just as passionate about a myriad of issues.  Why do we have to choose?  Does the Lord not give us eyes big enough to see the whole world?  Does He not give us a heart big enough to break for more than just one person or cause?

Then I think about how the Lord talks about the gifting of spiritual gifts, how everyone gets their own gifts at His discretion and each of us will use our gifts for different purposes under His direction.  If all of us were to hold the same issue dear to our hearts, say homelessness, then yes we could eradicate homelessness.  But what about addicts, those in prison, the foster system, those who are ill, the abused, and all of the other broken aspects of the world?  We can’t have a world full of doctors only, we need plumbers and electricians too.

I think it is reasonable to believe the the Lord will burden each of our hearts a bit differently, towards certain causes or people.  He disperses the burden so that we don’t forget about the widow when caring for the orphan, or forget the alien when we care for the invalid.  We need to be careful not to assume that just because the Lord has bent someone’s heart toward a specific cause that they don’t have a concern for others.

And, we should be grateful that the Lord has many workers to go out into the broken world.

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For the Love of Peace….

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If possible, on your part, live at peace with everyone.

Romans 12:18 (HCSB)

The pressures of life are surmounting.   The pressures on women are driving us to anxiety and depression.  Once upon a time, the only expectations upon us were to be image bearers, good wives, good mothers, good stewards, and good students of the word.  Over the course of history, to modern day, those expectations grew.

A perfect home.

Perfect children.

The perfect wife.

Then we added to those pressures as women entered the work force.   Now not only did we have to be perfect in every way at home, but also at work.  As more women entered the work force, the expectations upon them grew to become a super woman.

Then, there was a shift.  Women began staying home with their children again.  However, this added to the pressures of the perfect home life because she no longer had to balance outside work and housework.  We thrust upon her the notion that children’s birthday parties had to be grand, we needed to scrapbook every day of our children’s lives, and that we had to not only be the super mom… but also the super wife.  Proverbs 31 Woman became a piece of scripture that women were clinging to in order to become the super Christian woman, as well.

The pressure was mounting.

And then, it happened… social media exploded and took women along for the ride.

We had Pinterest to help us make the perfect meals, hand craft decorations for our homes, and upping the children’s birthday party to epic levels.

Facebook tossed in our faces, daily, the women who were winning at life.  Working out every day to maintain her perfect body.  Her perfect weekend crafting with her kids.  Date night, once a week, with her perfect husband.  The flowers he sends her, the gifts he gives her, the attention he showers her with.

Instagram became a revealing window to how much fun others were having, without us.  We saw their “girls weekend getaway” that we were not invited to.   We commented on the fifty hand made invitations for her Women’s Ministry luncheon.  We loved her outfit of the day photo, while we sat in the jeans we bought six years ago that are holding on by threads.

The pressure kept growing… and growing….

Before we could even realize it was happening, the green eyed monster of envy was rearing it’s ugly head.  To see it, we just had to look in the mirror.

We were jealous of her doting husband.

We felt left out of the fun.

We didn’t think we could compete with her talent.

We were no longer content with our homes, or their decor.

We lamented over our lack of funds to go on vacations or buy new clothes.

We began to hate our own bodies.

We became jealous over the opportunities their children have.

And that is when it happened, the pressure became too much.. and we blew up.

On the inside.

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  When these things happen, when the pressure grows to the point where we are going to blow…  someone is inevitably going to get caught in the wake of the explosion.

We will hate our selves, for the areas we failed.

We will hate our families, for what they are not.

We will hate others, for what they have … and we don’t.

Jealousy will poison our souls to the point that it will destroy us from the inside out, if we don’t spiritually check ourselves.

When these pressures surmount like this, we have only two ways to respond after we blow our tops.

  1.  We pull up our big girl panties, set our minds right, and find peace with the blessings that God has given us.

—-  OR —-

2. We begin to elevate ourselves, by tearing down others.

There are so many scriptures that point us toward peaceful living.  Blessed are the peacemakers (Matt 5:9),  Seek and Pursue Peace (Psalm 34:14), There is Future for those in Peace (Psalm 34:34), Live at Peace with Others (Romans 12:18)… these are just a few.  God wants us to be at PEACE in our lives, not fear… not anxiousness… not jealousy or discontent.   God wants us to LOVE in our lives, not hate… not condemn… not hurt or divide.  In fact, God’s word says that we will be KNOWN BY OUR LOVE (John 13:35).  When we LOVE, we not only have peace in our own lives, but we GIVE PEACE TO OTHERS.

God wants us to live in peace, and yet more often than not…  we go the other route.

Whether it is rooted in jealousy or a lack of confidence in ourselves (and our decisions or abilities), we begin to lash out.    It starts with the thoughts in our heads, begins to fall out of our mouths in our words, and then eventually felt in our actions and deeds.

We create competition, where there is none.  We become critical of their decisions and opportunities, instead of embracing our own unique blessings.  We try and bring others to our side, by gossiping about the person.  We try and force our opinions on others, not because we desire to see change in them for the better, but really to affirm that we are right.  Our thoughts become so self centered, that we can no longer see that person(s) in a positive light.   If we are not careful, it can begin to consume us.

If we are not at peace, we are at war… within our own heart and mind.  War is messy, and it has many casualties.  It will cost you happiness, contentment, and relationships.

 And the peace of God, which surpasses every thought, will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.

Philippians 4:7 (HCSB)

Do not be conformed to this world, choose to live in peace.  Be known for your love.

“Let’s lay down our junk, our wonky junk that messes up relationships and community and togetherness. We won’t let our own crazy stop us from affirming each other and banging the drum for our sisters.” – Jen Hatmaker, For the Love

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WHO ARE YOU?

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For in Christ Jesus you are all sons of God, through faith.  For as many of you as were baptized into Christ have put on Christ.  There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is no make and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.  – Galatians 3:26-28

In the last few weeks I have had an opportunity to read a few different books, all from authors I had never heard of before.  Each of the books were published within the last year.  The topics covered everything from diversity within the church to international missions.  Yet, there was an underlying theme in each one, that I could not escape noticing.  Maybe, it was because I was reading the books in succession, and if there were more time between them, I wouldn’t have caught it. Or, perhaps, God is laying something on the hearts of His people.  Each delivering this message in a different way, to a different group of people.

This underlying theme was all about identity.  How do you identify yourself?  Who are you?

If someone were to ask you those questions, how would you answer?

I am a teacher.  I am a woman.  I am a mother.  I am a doctor.  I am a wife.  I am a dreamer.  I am an artist.  I am a writer. I am a leader.  I am Hispanic.  I am a volunteer.  I am a student.  I am an advocate for victims.  I am a speaker.

And while all, some, or just one of these statements may be true about you; that is not all you are.  In fact, there is something that is even more important.  You are a Christian.  You are an image bearer of God.

Too often we can allow ourselves to get so root in our position, platform, or passions, that we allow that to become our identity.  We become known for our words, skills, dedication, gifts, spouse, kids… and not the God who gave those things to us.  We unknowingly begin taking credit for it, and our identity in Christ takes the second or third rung.

In the book UNIFIED, in regard to diversity, the author states that we should be identifying as brothers and sisters in Christ first, before our ethnicity.  This is what unifies the body, despite our difference in skill color, culture or traditions.

In the book MADE FOR MORE, in regards to women, the author states that we should identify with our brothers and sisters in Christ first, before our gender.  I am a Christian woman not a woman who is a Christian.
We are Christians, who are parents.  We are Christians, who are missionaries  We are Christians, who are teachers.  We are Christians, who are Pastors.  We are Christians, who are African American.  We are Christians, who are advocates for victims of domestic violence.

When we begin to acknowledge that first in ourselves, and others, it can change everything about how you think, act, and serve.

Father God, I praise you for the wonderful Creator that you are.  You have made us all so different, yet unified us as members of your family.  I think you for our gifts and the passions that you have laid on our hearts.  May they be used to serve you, and for your glory.  In Jesus’ name, Amen.

This Devotion was written by Gena McCown for the TC3 Women’s Ministry Devotion Website.