This has been a very interesting summer, as I have been developing a Women’s Ministry college course. I’ve been entrenched in books on every topic from Women’s Ministry leader books, to deeper books on the biblical stance on women as leaders in the church. I’ve been digging into the scriptures, looking at historical evidence, and frankly…. my head is going to explode. There is a lot of information rolling around in my head, and much of it has challenged and even changed the way I viewed certain topics.
It has also increased my passion for women’s ministry, but a different women’s ministry from what I have ever known. It has also opened my eyes to some of the glaring holes we have in resources, as well as lifted my spirit as I have uncovered things in the works across the country that are going to turn women’s ministry on it’s head.
Women play a huge part in the life of their church, most recent surveys estimate women make up 55-65% of most congregations, additionally they make up about 80% of the volunteer force of the church. This volunteer force are the ones responsible for teaching and leading other women, teaching our children in Sunday School, leading Kids Clubs, volunteering for VBS, and this is in addition to service like preparing meals for new moms, taking care of hospitality for Sunday morning, rocking babies in the nursery, volunteering for secretarial duties in the church, cleaning up the church, etc.
Yet, it is becoming more apparent, that the majority of these women who are volunteering to teach and lead are not being discipled for those positions. Are we ensuring that our women are qualified to teach or lead, or thankful for the warm body willing to volunteer? Are we encouraging our volunteers by equipping them with mentors?
Women’s Ministry has lost focus in recent years, becoming unbalanced in what they offer to the women in the church. There are more social events, fewer study groups. Study groups are focused on content from books, versus content from the scriptures. We are studying books about the bible, instead of the bible itself. We have lost our ability to interpret scripture on our own. We come together for social events to foster community, which is important, but at the cost of spiritual growth.
Why has this happened?
In part, it is because Women’s Ministry has no real support at the moment.
Women’s Minsitries are often independent ministries within the church, that exist in their own sphere. Pastors, sort of leave the women to fend for themselves. They lack invested guidance, and many are not truly clear about the church’s vision. The goal of a women’s ministry should be to use their calender of events and studies to support the vision of the church. But in order to do so, the leader team really needs to understand what that is. We need our Pastors to not only allow women’s ministry to exist in the church, but also to step in and help mold it. We need a Shepherd.
When it comes to resource materials on Women’s Ministry, much of what is available is very outdated. There are books and websites that lean more toward party planning, and less about making sure our ministry is gospel centered. Additionally, many of these books are out of touch with the current obstacles and difficulties women face TODAY. We are lacking books of substance, that train us on how to be effective leaders, run effective and gospel centered ministries, how to minister to the women in our church, and with changes in societal norms…. these subjects are just going to get more confusing.
Women’s Ministries are being led off the cuff, wading the waters and uncertain of what to do. We begin to mimic other ministries, or do age old activities because “that is what women’s ministry does”. We are afraid to break those molds, because women won’t come. Or, we want to… but we can’t get the support of church leadership because of the stereotype of women’s ministry in the past.
I spent the last week speaking to women’s ministry leaders across the country. I wanted to understand what the greatest obstacles women’s ministry leaders face. I received the same answers, state to state…. east coast to west coast.
1) We don’t know how to reach the 20 year old women in our church.
2) We don’t have a budget to work with, to get the materials we need.
3) We don’t have support from our Pastors.
I reached out to a woman who wrote her doctorate thesis on Women’s Ministry, and sadly… she didn’t have an answer to these questions. She confirmed that these are indeed real problems, on a board scale, but there hasn’t been an answer in the church. She surmised in her thesis paper, the best way to address it was to step outside of the church and start a parachurch organization.
I was saddened that this was her conclusion.
Then I looked at the statistics on the number of women leaving the church, and began to wonder.
I dug a bit deeper…. why are women leaving the church? Why are women not committing to bible studies? What are we missing???
We are missing the fact that we have a church made up of mostly women, where God has bestowed gifts upon them to use for His purposes. We are not identifying them in the church, we are not developing them in the church, and we really are not using them in the church. Women feel as if they have more to offer than child care and making coffee. They have gifts of teaching and mentoring, that are being unused. So they leave, looking for a place where these gifts will be embraced.
Women want to grow spiritually, they want to dig deeper in to the word, and they don’t know how. We have failed in bible literacy for women, underestimating what they can and cannot do (or understand). We offer them cake, but eventually they get tired of cake and then they stop showing up for study groups. It’s because their spirit wants something more substantial…. they may not even realize that is what they are missing. They do know the group is not meeting a need. We need to create programs that address this need. Not just asking for volunteers to lead studies, but identifying and training study leaders. Give those without confidence, confidence.
Something that really breaks your heart, is when you hear a woman from your church tell you that she is lonely. Recently a well known author posed a question on her facebook page, she asked what was the one thing women felt they were lacking in their church. The answer, community. Women want to not just have a church family on Sunday, or bible study nights. They want to go back to the earlier church days where we were a community who “did life together”. Older women responded that they missed having lunch with the church on Sundays after services. Another commented that in 10 years of being in her church, she had only been invited to dinner with another family ONE TIME, and that her invitations were going unanswered. She lamented that she had a closer relationship with her “non-Christian friends” than those she worships with.
A women’s ministry needs balance, and needs to be Christ focused.
Have social gatherings, like brunches and ladies night out events. This is where we begin to form community. It is the place where we start getting to know each other, establishing trust, and building relationships. Use these social gatherings as an avenue to tap into the spiritual gifts of the women attending. As you learn of their spiritual gifts, funnel them toward study groups that will help develop their spiritual growth and maturity, and build closer tight knit community. It is here that women will begin to have deeper bonds and are given the ability to serve each other with compassion and love, counsel and guide, mentor and disciple. Then, as we wrap it all together, we have built up women to serve the church. Women who are committed to serving in ways that support the over all vision of the church.
As our Pastors begin to recognize this shift in ministry, where we are intentional about every event & study pointing toward Christ and supporting the church’s vision… I believe we will see greater support for the ministry.
The change must start with us.
The great news is that there is a widespread recognition amongst women’s ministry leaders that there is a shift coming in women’s ministry. The are organizations that are developing to train women’s ministry leaders, and provide support and encouragement. Several are focusing on the Pastors, and getting them on board with effective women’s ministry. Three books are currently on the market that should be in your Women’s Ministry library.
As these various organizations and ministries complete their programs for Women’s Ministry trainings, and more support resources come available, I will definitely be sharing them here.
It’s time to look at our women’s ministry with new eyes. There are many men and women who see a revival on the horizon, within women’s ministry, or at least with women’s ministry a contributing factor. Churches can’t afford to lose their women because they feel unrecognized, under appreciated, and under valued. And women, we can’t take a posture that we will just leave the church and do it on our own. Let’s not divide our churches any further, but restore unity within the body. Be a part of the solution.