One of the things we can struggle with in ministry service is creating a ministry that is balanced between social activities and discipleship opportunities. This struggle is not unique to women’s ministry, but it does seem to impact women’s ministry more.
In speaking with women’s ministry leaders across the country, I’ve seen the struggle played out in many different ways. The women’s ministry team may be divided, some wanting social events, and others wanting more studies and workshops. The church may want less fellowship, and more small groups. Even the women in the congregation want more of one thing, and others would prefer something else.
We seemingly keep coming to the same place…. and all or nothing stance. Either we have a women’s ministry that is all studies, workshops, mentoring and discipleship… or a calendar of events that is centered around relational fellowship events.
Can’t we have both?
Can’t we have a fellowship event that turns the women’s gaze toward Christ?
Can’t we have a small groups that encourage building relationships?
Do we have to chose one or the other, or could we not have the best of both worlds?
In church leadership, most of our Pastors and Elders have been raised in the church. They understand how we do things as a church, and there is an expectation that others will fall right into that line. However, when you haven’t been raised in a church… it’s not the same. You won’t automatically thrust yourself into a small group setting. You will need time to build confidence in yourself, get to know people in the church to build relationships, and to ultimately find the small group that you feel best suits you.
Social Fellowship Events are the bridge to making this happen. It provides an environment for women to meet each other, and set the foundations for future relationships. It also serves as a great avenue for sharing information about the women’s ministry and church with the larger body of women.
Historically, women had many opportunities to gather with each other as a community. They would work along side each other in the fields and in the market place. As times changed and people became more transient, they moved away from the from their close knit families and communities. When the Industrial Revolution took men from the home, and brought in modern conveniences, women spent more time IN the home than gathering the public spaces. They became more detached from community with every passing generation. Even today, in 2015, despite the endless social media communities… women are complaining more about being alone than ever.
We miss community and fellowship.
While “women’s ministry” was present even in the Old Testament days, it looked very different than what we see today. Because, in the OT and NT (and early church) women’s ministry was active in the daily lives, as we lived together and worshiped together daily. In more modern times, we created women’s ministry programs that would fill the community void, but lost purpose. We allowed women’s ministry to become more of a social club atmosphere.
The good news is that women’s ministries around the country are trying to take it back to it’s roots. Doing life together, ministering to each other, building relationships and community are all in addition to deeper scriptural study and knowledge.
In order to do this, we need to find the balance between the activities that are warm and inviting, and the ones that are deeper and challenging.
A women’s ministry team should be looking at the vision of the church, and then asking how each and every activity they propose to do supports that mission.
It is being more intentional and purposeful over the planning choices that we make, clear communication with the Pastoral Team, and in submission to God’s will for the ministry over your own.