There are some subjects, that I am carefully quiet about. It isn’t that I have an opinion, or that I am disregarding biblical truths about the subject. I’m just careful about when I speak, what I say, and how I say it. I brushed on this topic a few days ago on my abortion post. While I am prolife, and stand for the life of the baby… I am carefully quiet when it comes to slinging names at the women who have had an abortion. There are too many women grieving, receiving post abortive counseling … to recklessly throw my words across a screen or in a public gathering.
Many women who are aggrieved by their choice already feel guilt or shame. Their hearts are burdened, and many of them are secretly so. Not every woman who has had an abortion is ready to share her story. I have no idea who among my social media friends, or those reading this blog, may have had an abortion. Instead of casting judgement upon the women, I would rather focus on the lives I am fighting for and love on those who are broken over their decision. So, when it comes to social media posts on this subject, I am carefully quiet. I think through which news articles I will share, or memes make my point. I focus on saving life versus condemning women who already suffer.
I have seen too many people on social media, that are representing our faith, become reckless with their words. They do not thing beyond themselves and their opinions to the women who are sitting on the other side of the screen, the ones receiving the arrows that are being shot.
“They sharpen their tongues like swords and aim cruel words like deadly arrows. They shoot from ambush at the innocent; they shoot suddenly, without fear.”
These types of posts are often written (or shared) without any careful thought or concern. A quick click of a button, and the damage is done. There was one instance , where a woman I know shared an article on social media that was really cruel. When someone called her out on it, she ducked the rebuke by saying that she had only shared it in order to read it later. This was either a lie to save face, or total irresponsibility on her part. It didn’t matter the damage was done.
“Words once spoken, like an arrow from a bow, cannot be recalled.”
It may seem obvious at this point that we should be more careful what we say in public settings about big controversial topics. Maybe we are being a bit careless, letting the tongue fly in the face of unsuspecting victims. We could use a little more caution, think through what we are going to say, or take a quick pause before hitting the share button. This is great, but we need to also think through the less controversial things we say recklessly.
I know of several women who take a very strong stance that not only is motherhood is the greatest calling that God gives a woman, some go to the extreme and claim it to be the only calling on a woman. Be a wife, be a mother. End of story. They share internet articles, blog opinions, and scriptures to validate their claims.
I can’t help but think of all the infertile women reading those posts.
I know of women who are keyboard activists in regards to the idea “breast is best”, who use careless words to support their cause. They shame mothers away from bottle feeding using statistics, quotes, and shame.
I can’t help but think of the young moms I have encountered who feel like failures because they can’t do the basic thing their body was designed for. They cry because they have been shamed into thinking they have now compromised their child’s future.
Why do we feel that we are so right (or righteous) that we can just sling words without any concern for what we are saying, how we are saying it, and whom we are saying it to.
There is a reason the scripture refers to our tongues as a sword, or that our mouths will reveal our hearts. Judgmental, divisive, and angry words reveal a bitter, proud heart.
When we take the time to stop, and carefully consider our words… we discern what to say, how to say it, and when to speak. We also learn when to be carefully quiet. Not because we don’t have truth to say, but rather because we love those who are hurting. We are willing to take a pause and look for a better way.