Welcome to my 10 Day Book Tour. I love to read, and I am often given books to read for review. Over the last year, I determined that I didn’t want to turn my blog into a book review site. However, I can’t help that I LOVE books. I truly do. They add so much value to my life, because I learn from them and glean new perspectives from the authors who put their hearts to the page. So, I’ve decided that each quarter, I’m going to do a 10 Day Book Tour. What have I been reading, what do I honestly think about the book, and to whom I would recommend it. Each day, for ten days, you will get a peak into my bookshelf.
DAY SIX: LISTS TO LOVE BY FOR BUSY WIVES by Mark and Susan Merrill
Ok… so Valentines Day is not too far away, and what a better thing to do on Valentines Day than celebrate your marriage!
Times have changed, women are not at home tending the kids and prepping dinner before their husband gets home. We are busy.
* We are busy at work.
* We are volunteering more.
* We are pinteresting perfect birthday parties for our kids.
Ok… to be fair, some of our busy is self imposed. But, I remember thinking how much free time I would have once all three of our kids were in school. This was a lie.
My whole life is organized by ongoing lists. Lists keep me sane. Lists make sure I don’t forget.
It is no surprise that this title would appeal to me. Yes, I’m admitting it. I need a list to be a better wife.
I’ve actually been a fan of the Merrills for quite some time, through Family First. I expected that I would probably read some familiar ideas and suggestions, but also eager to get new ones too. Turns out that this book was not exactly what I was expecting.
Expectation: I would find cute, fun, romantic, and inventive check lists of ideas for date nights or flirty texts I could send my husband.
Reality: This book digs a little deeper than superficial lists. For example, the first “list”, is 7 Truths About Marriage. Yep, we are going to dig deep to truth. And… there was a quiz at the end of the chapter. List Three was on 5 Powerful Words for Your Marriage. I realized I could do a better job in how I communicate with my husband. List 12, it wants to talk about a struggling sex life. Yep, we are going to get personal. Discussion questions follow that one, so… yeah I also have to talk about it. UGH.
In all seriousness, this book is filled with 30 lists that are well beyond check off boxes with novelty suggestions. It is filled with 30 lists that are meant to help us refocus on our marriages, our spouses, with intention and purpose. Reading ideas, lists of truths, answering questions to explore these little chapters, actionable steps to be a better wife.
I would recommend this book for anyone who is married, or preparing to get married.
Great engagement or bridal shower gift, for certain. I might also recommend this book to the woman who is struggling with her marriage.
It’s true that the only person you can change is you. So, if we want a better marriage… I can only change myself. If we put forth the effort we can save a failing marriage, take a good marriage to great, or keep the exceptional marriage going forward.