This is a phrase I have begun to use recently, a lot, in regards to my husband. I think it is fairly accurate. My husband has a tendency to say things without putting a whole lot of thought to it. Some times, it is reactionary. He may not have time to really think through a politically correct response. Other times, he may be tired from a long day and things slip out in a manner he never intended. The words literally just seem to fall out of is mouth. Like when you spill your coffee, it isn’t intended … but happens.
Once my husband was asked a question about a friend of ours. He laughed and blurted out a seemingly innocent response. It wasn’t until he recounted the conversation to me later, that he realized the error he had made. He responded without qualifying the answer. So it sounded HORRIBLE, when in reality it really wasn’t. Fortunately, I was able to clear things up.
There was another time when my husband was attempting to make me feel better about something, but as the words fell out of his mouth… they did some damage. In this instance, he realized it immediately. But the words had been said, he could only apologize.
I could be super annoyed at my husband, I could chide him for being reckless with his words. I do try to steer him in the right direction, or coach him on a better way to say things. I do try and encourage him to stop and think before he responds. But, there are times when the words that fall out of his mouth are SPOT ON. They may sting a bit, could use a little sugar coating… but he is absolutely correct.
There are are also times when words fall out of my mouth.
With my children, when I respond in anger or frustration, as an example.
Scripture warns us that the tongue is a formidable foe, and needs taming.
Words that fall from our mouths are just as dangerous as bricks falling from wall, and wrecking balls swinging out of control.
Words fall out, when we haphazardly drop that bit of gossip. Words fall out, when we lose our temper. Words fall out, when we are disappointed. Words fall out, when we are frustrated or hurt. Words fall out, when we make promises we can’t keep (or never intended to).
Words that fall out, have a tendency to hurt. They leave a hole, where they once were. Repair and restoration needs to be made.
And, I personally think… the words that fall out hurt far more than the ones that are thrown at you. Because you never see them coming.