“Do not have anything to do with foolish and stupid arguments because you know they produce quarrels.” 2 Timothy 2:23
Honestly. I could just stop there. That exact moment when scripture itself speaks directly to the problem at hand. The scripture that needs no interpretation or explanation. It’s plain and clear. You do not need a Strong’s Concordance for this one.
Yet, this was not even the first time this warning was spoken. It had already been mentioned in 2 Tim 2:14. But, it needed repeating within the SAME chapter! When you keep reading, you’ll find it again in the next book, Titus (2:9) 3 times in just a few short chapters. Lord, I think I might be finally getting your message. I sit here convicted. I should have known better. In fact, I did know better.
We have all been there at some point or another, where we find ourselves in an argument or stand off with another person (friend, coworker, parent, spouse, child). In the end we hug, making up for arguing over “something so stupid”. (I know a few of you reading this are shaking your head in agreement). But, in short order, we find ourselves doing it again. Engaged in another pointless argument over something that in the grand scheme of life means nothing.
Let it happen too often, and stupid arguments become big quarrels. They will begin putting stress on relationships, and ultimately breaking them. Some times beyond repair. Convicted. That’s me. I have allowed myself to engage in stupid arguments too many times. I have felt the pain. I have sensed the stress. I have failed to repair.
Proverbs 21:23 “Whoever keeps his mouth and his tongue keeps himself out of trouble.”
Lord, I am grateful that your word continues to be a guide in my life. I pray for discernment on how and when to use my words, and when they are best left unsaid. Amen.